Dim Vavi's The Work

   Coaching - I should prepare perfectly for my calls.  Is that true? Yes Do I know that is absolutely true? No... It can go wrong or right whether I prepare or not...  It may help. But if I won't prepare it will still be ok.  I will try my best in the call anyway. What I feel and how I act when I think this thought? Angry about spent time.  Guilty that I didn't put enough effort.  Useless. Afraid it will go bad.  Anxious. I start to resent them.  I don't want to do it. I want to get excuses. I want to quit.  I feel pressure to perform. To not fail. To do a great job  How would my feelings, actions and life change if I didn't have it? I would be at peace.  I would be glad to see them.  I won't have resentment.  I would look forward to calls. I would enjoy them.  I would have more energy to give.  I would be happy I get to have them. Turnarounds:      1. I should not prepare perfectly for my calls.  Firstly, I can't.  I cannot know everything - it will never be p

  Coaching - I HAVE to help my clients Is that true? Yes Do I know that is absolutely true? No. They can find it somewhere else. They can handle all by themselves eventually. What I feel and how I act when I think this thought? Anxious, worried. Want to make excuses. To get away from it.  I am scared I won't know what to do. That they will consider me a failure. How would my feelings, actions and life change if I didn't have it? I would just be there for them.  I would share myself freely.  I could say that I don't know what to give and ask them what would they think they need from me.  I would ask them what they want and how can I help them.  I would not have ego about being a know-all and relax. Turnarounds:      1. I have to help myself - YES.  I want to help me learn.  I am only starting and want experience.  I want to help me get it.  I want to help me get on with these worries.  I want to help me build it into WHO I AM      2. My clients have to help me - That IS true

(+) I hate that they won't allow my posts there -  Done I hate that they ignore what I say. I don't like that people can argue with me there. I want them to notice me. I want them to respect and praise me. I am scared that I'll bother people there. I hate that I have to adjust my content for them. I want it to be easy. They should read my posts and comments. My posts should be better than anyone else's. I hate that someone can do a better content than me.

 Reddit - They should allow my posts there. Is that true? Yes. I put in value, they should return the favour and respect me. Do I know that is absolutely true? No. They can worry that I spam. They can be busy. They may not like what I say. What I feel and how I act when I think this thought? Angry, disappointed. Alone. Ignored. Sad. Cold. Useless. Hopeless. Hurt. I am crying and screaming inside. I want to run away. I want to forget about it. How would my feelings, actions and life change if I didn't have it? I would just port, and didn't care about the result. I would have no worries that something happens. I would feel good that I tried to share my story. I would be happy. Turnarounds: I should allow my posts there I should allow their posts in me: "My posts will be worse than other people, so I try to ignore them" - it is also true I should allow my posts in me: "I reject the value of my own content" - it is so much true