Inquiry - Coaching - I Have To Help My Clients

  Coaching - I HAVE to help my clients

• Is that true?

Yes

• Do I know that is absolutely true?

No. They can find it somewhere else. They can handle all by themselves eventually.

• What I feel and how I act when I think this thought?

Anxious, worried. Want to make excuses. To get away from it. 

I am scared I won't know what to do. That they will consider me a failure.

• How would my feelings, actions and life change if I didn't have it?

I would just be there for them. 

I would share myself freely. 

I could say that I don't know what to give and ask them what would they think they need from me. 

I would ask them what they want and how can I help them. 

I would not have ego about being a know-all and relax.

• Turnarounds:

    1. I have to help myself - YES. 

I want to help me learn. 

I am only starting and want experience. 

I want to help me get it. 

I want to help me get on with these worries. 

I want to help me build it into WHO I AM

    2. My clients have to help me - That IS true. 

I don't know what is in their head - only they know. 

Only they can tell me how I can help. 

If they wont help me in this, it won't work. 

Note - ^ This was the turnaround I DIDN'T want to write. I had some extreme anxiety about thinking that way - "everything should depend on me", "I should have all the answers". I thought it would be extremely arrogant to put it here - "they don't have to do anything for me, right?"

- It ended up as one of the biggest realisations about this topic.

Another proof that everything that comes up in The Work is valuable - do not try to filter the thoughts - just write it down. 

After, you can decide if it has some merit or not…

    3. I don't have to help them - It is truer.

I don't. 

They have all they need. 

I can guide them. 

But ultimately they have to help themselves. And they can. 

With or without me - They will be OK